Chelsea at age 4 1/2 |
Chelsea hit all of her milestones late. She didn’t smile for
nearly 2 months, batted at toys around 7-8 months, and even at 10 months- 1
year old, couldn’t sit independently or crawl. It was about then that my
husband and I sought out an evaluation from early intervention. Guilty
confession: I almost expected them to come and tell me that I was
over-reacting, that Chelsea was perfect and I had no reason to worry. But after
the evaluation, they began her with physical therapy every other week, and had
a developmental specialist visit once a month also.
We hit physical therapy with determination. I was a young,
stay at home, first time mom, and I was resolved to help my sweet daughter as
much as I could, and I had the time and energy. We did home practice 2 hours
every day of physical therapy. To teach Chelsea to crawl, I wrapped a thin
towel around her torso, held it in my teeth to keep her tummy up, and moved her
knees with my own, and her hands with mine. Doing this for 2 hours every day
for about 3 months, and then she learned to crawl on her own. Same procedure for pulling to stand, learning
to sit to fall, and learning to walk.
Because Miss C has global apraxia (though at the time I
didn’t know it), I have to create muscle memory for her before she can carry
out a motor plan on her own. I tracked it for crawling and again for learning
the sound “ba”, and it is roughly 10,000 repetitions of me doing an action for
her until she gets it.
She began walking at 20-22 months, still unsteady, but
walking! And that was a HUGE blessing, since her brother was born when she was
23 months. Right when Chelsea turned 2, we had her speech evaluated as well. Up
to this point, she could only say “da” over and over. Never once had I heard
“mama” or “Baba” or anything. Zero. The speech therapist from our early
intervention program started with her right away. We also began learning ASL in
earnest. I began trying to teach Chelsea the signs for “more” and “milk” by
using hand over hand when she wanted those things, time and time and time
again.
The early intervention program also sent out an occupational
therapist to help with her weight gain, and we got to do a fun horseback riding
therapy session each week, which terrified Chelsea for the first 2-3 weeks,
then she loved. I coach gymnastics part time, and so began bringing Chelsea to
my preschool classes once or twice a week to coach the Mommy and Me class,
which seemed to benefit her tremendously.
At 2 years and 9 months, she said her first word- Mama!!! I
can’t even begin to describe how elated I felt. It was right about this time
that we decided to take the plunge and have Chelsea go to private speech
therapy 2-3 times a week, even though the cost made us choke at first. We
hunted around, interviewed several speech therapists, and selected one.
When Chelsea turned 3, we made that famous leap- the transition
from early intervention to the school district! Now, I am an open book, and
people can ask me just about anything they want and I have no issues with
answering. So it drove me NUTS how I would try to find out what other kids were
getting in their IEPs, and no one wanted to say. So service-wise: Chelsea got 3
days of preschool a week from March-May that first school year, and 4 days a
week since then. She receives 70 minutes weekly of 1:1 speech, 30 minutes 1:1
OT weekly, and 30 minutes APE with her class weekly. I also recently fought again
and her entire team is being trained in apraxia. I will post a lot about IEPs,
I want parents to advocate for their kids, and you find out that school
districts either won’t tell you things or don’t know themselves and stick to “one
size fits all” programs like they are glued.
3 years 4 months, she had 23 words and 5 animal sounds. This was
after summer speech camps, my own “preschool” that I do with my kids at home,
private therapy, and everything else that we did (horseback, gymnastics, home
practice, etc).
At 4 years old, Chelsea had had 50ish words, and I threw her
a party, because you need a party if you work as hard as Chelsea does! She did
T-ball, visited Nancy Kaufman in Michigan for a week, did a summer camp in
Houston, and private therapy out the wazoo.
Before someone says that we have oodles of money to do all this stuff with, let me head
you off. No, we don’t. We are not poor, but we sure aren't rich by any stretch either. My stellar husband
works 80 hours a week at 2 jobs, I research grants and scholarships, and we
live on nothing. We eat, sleep, and do therapy (and yes, I make it very fun- I’m
not a drill sergeant) in our tiny basement apartment. We just know where our
priorities are, and our daughter being able to communicate and be functional is
way more important than vacations, a big house, new cars, nice clothes, or just
about anything else.
We finally got genetic testing last month, so we are very,
very new to this diagnosis, and it is a very rare genetic disorder.
Now at 4 years 9 months has over 100 words (I haven’t even fully
counted), and adding in word approximations with the sign, has more than 600
words that she can communicate! She can run, jump, is the best-behaved in
classes, knows her ABCs and numbers up to 11, can do 5-8 piece puzzles
independently, and is the sweetest girl ever as long as her little brother isn’t
teasing her. She works so, so hard every day to communicate and I could not be
more proud to be her mommy!
Update: At 5 years old, she is mostly potty trained, speaks over 150 words, and has roughly 650-700 signs. She has started recognizing sight words as well!